Secrets you can’t tell with colleagues: Four taboo topics in the office

2012-01-18 「 2661 words / 5 minute 」
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同事间交朋友是不可避免的,这是职场人际的好办法,但是一定要为同事之间的谈话设个限。为了在职场显得更专业并保持正常的工作关系,职场人在办公室请不要讨论以下四大话题。
Friendships with your co-workers are inevitable — and a great way to connect to your workplace — but it's important to set a few conversation boundaries. Avoid these four topics to maintain a sense of professionalism and keep your office relationships work-appropriate.
金钱
1.Dollars and cents:
职场不谈薪水已经不是什么秘密了,但是除了真金白银的工资外,债务、贷款、借贷等状况,无论是你自己的还是别人的,也都应当保护个人隐私而不予以讨论。如果别人讨论了有关钱的话题,那么你要做的就是回避并转移话题。
It's no secret that salary talk should be avoided, but it's not just paychecks that ought to remain private. Debt, mortgage, and loans — yours or anyone else's — are a personal concern, and if money matters come up, the best thing to do is sidestep the subject and steer the conversation elsewhere.
办公室谣言
2.Office rumors:
办公室的格子间里总会产生各种流言蜚语,但这不意味着你也要参与八卦的讨论。你应该以你的工作表现而为人熟知,而不是你的八卦能力。即使你很信任某位同事,或者你的出发点是好的,你也可能在八卦的过程中被人曲解,偷听或者卷入是非之中。不谈办公室谣言,你还可以动动脑筋,聊聊昨晚电视里的八卦嘛。
There will always be cubicle gossip, but that doesn't mean you need to participate. You want to be known for your work, not your rumor radar. Even if you trust a co-worker and your intentions are good, there's still a chance that you'll be misunderstood, overheard, or otherwise caught up in the drama. Use your wit to comment on last night's TV highlights instead.
职位
3.Job status:
如果老板给你升职加薪,你的确应该好好庆祝一番!你可以给你的家人朋友打电话,但不要和你的同事说,除非有特别要求。等到有正式的文件下来或者你的头衔变更之后,你才可以和同事说。提早说的话,会让人觉得你是在沾沾自喜,或者会让人觉得你很傲慢。
If your boss offers you a raise or a promotion, by all means, celebrate! Call your family, or your friends, but don't bring it up to a co-worker unless asked directly. Wait until an announcement is made or until your title officially changes; raising the subject yourself might seem boastful or rude.
个人私事
4.Intimate issues:
在与同事的谈话中,你不可避免地会谈到生活中发生的事,但是记住要分清楚什么可以说,什么不可以说。即使你和同事的关系再好,你们也只是同事关系,有些事情是不能和同事分享的。如果你吃不准到底什么能说的时候,那就想一下,你希不希望这件事被你的上级知道。这样你就能正确地看待要讨论的事情了。
Of course you'll mention the happenings in your life to the people around you, but remember to set limits on what you reveal. Even if you feel close to your co-workers, they're still your co-workers, and some things simply shouldn't be shared with office-mates. When in doubt, ask yourself if it's something you'd want your superiors to know. That will put things in perspective.
底线
The bottom line:
和每天工作在你身边的人交朋友,这点没错,因为这样会使你的工作时间过得更快。但记住,职场中的朋友关系是建立在职场上的,你的一举一动、一言一行都会影响到你的职业声誉。
You will and should befriend the people who work alongside you, because getting along with co-workers can make your 9 to 5 pass in a snap. Just remember that those relationships are rooted in the workplace, so how and what you communicate can shape your business reputation.