你有没有遇到过需要安慰别人的时候？
Have you ever found yourself in the place to console anyone?
时不时地，我们身边总会有人出现些情绪上的问题。
Every now and then we see people get emotional around us.
有时候是因为他们经历了惨剧。
Sometimes they experience tragedy.
有时候，只是因为他们发现生活并没有像他们计划的那样发展。
Sometimes they just find out that life doesn't go as they planned.
不过不管是哪种，他们心里都不好受，而你去安慰他们也显得很自然。
Either case, they feel sad and it seems natural for you to console them.
不过，你会说些什么呢？
But what would you say?
会说：“我理解你。”？
Would you say "I understand you."?
据我的观察，大部分人都会这么说。
In my experience most people would.
但是别。一个情商高的人是不会这么说的。
But don't. Someone with high EQ would never say that.
因为这并不能安慰谁。这只会让人更受伤，而且会激怒别人。
Because it doesn't console anyone. It only hurts and makes people angry.
每个人的生活都是独特的。每个人的体验都是独特的。每个人的感受都是独特的。
Everyone's life is unique. Everyone's experience is unique. Everyone's feeling is unique.
别以为你能理解别人的事情。
Don't assume that you know anyting about anyone.
因为你不能。
'Cause you don't.
就像你也知道没有人真的理解你。而你也不希望有人告诉你他们理解你。
Just like nobody really understands you. And you don't want people to tell you that they do.